Older women urged to become lesbians

[Ferre]

By Nikki Voss and Nicole Cox

August 10, 2003

 

AUSTRALIA'S leading relationship counselling body is urging lonely older single women to become lesbians.

 

Relationships Australia spokesman Jack Carney said men's shorter life spans, and their pursuit of much younger women, meant women in their twilight years were often forced to turn to other women for love and companionship.

 

Mr Carney said the government-funded support group encouraged older women to explore lesbian relationships, which were seen as more nurturing and emotionally supportive.

 

Older women were even pooling their resources to buy property and making pacts to form couples if they did not find a male partner by a certain age, he said.

 

"As they get over 60, opportunities to get a man diminish substantially. Men marry younger women and they die about eight years younger, so there is a real male shortage," Mr Carney said.

 

"And as women get even older it gets much worse, so we ask them to entertain the idea of lesbian relationships."

 

Australian Pensioner and Superannuants League secretary Yvonne Zardini said she was aware of more women moving in together in old age.

 

"You notice it more where women are sharing houses, but I never ask exactly what the nature of their arrangements are, but it wouldn't surprise me (if they were in same-sex relationships). Loneliness can be a terrible thing when you are older," she said.

 

Myra Flynn, from support group Older Dykes, said some older women "defaulted" to lesbian relationships because of a lack of men.

 

Others had struck up relationships with men in the 1950s and 60s only because they could not be open about their sexuality, or they wanted a child.

 

"It's becoming more common and I've noticed a growing trend in bisexuality," she said.

 

The Matrix Guild, a Victorian support group for lesbian women aged over 40, refused to comment on the Relationships Australia advice.

 

Census 2001 statistics show older members of society are adopting the divorce trend and are leaving life-long partners, some even in their 80s.

 

Mr Carney said that despite the encouragement for women to "explore other options", married and miserable was still better than alone and free, unless there was abuse.

 

"The best thing you can do is stay married if you want to live longer," Mr Carney said.

 

"When I talk to other counsellors, they are seeing many more older people coming in, but we try to tell them to stick with it. Divorce is like amputation."

 

Founded in 1948 as the Marriage Guidance Council, Relationships Australia is a non-profit counselling organisation funded by both the Federal and State Governments.

 

In response to the pensioner stampede to the divorce courts, Relationships Australia has launched two courses on how to start again in relationships in old age.

 

 

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[Guest Field_of_Light]

.....its like saying being lesbian is a cure all for the problem with men...they should do more research into finding out whether lesbians are happier than women in hetersexual relationships....

 

They arent. There exists the same double standards, the same cheating, la la la....

 

Some people will be happy no matter what and some will be unhappy no matter what and some will have it half and half most of their lives...

 

It makes us human...and flawed

 

IMO

[Luke Skywalker]

But beautiful...

[Guest Babybear]

They sayin men turn women to lesbians....Wha about all the guys out there that get fed up an go gay

works in both ways hehe

[pipeman]

works in both ways hehe

well, um...yeah..... I suppose